Paul Nicolaus posted a fascinating article titled, “Want to Feel Happier Today? Try Talking to a Stranger,” on npr.org. According to the article, talking to strangers puts us in a better mood, makes us feel more connected to our community and improves our level of happiness. Despite these benefits, Mr. Nicolaus points out that many of us will do just about anything to avoid conversation or eye contact with a stranger. Nicholas Epley, a University of Chicago behavioral scientist says the reason for this is that we’re afraid they won’t enjoy talking to us. On the other hand, “…when we do talk to each other, those social interactions with strangers tend to be both less awkward and more enjoyable than most people predict.” So how do we overcome this fear? Start with the people you already interact with like the checkout clerk at the grocery store, the barista at the coffee shop or the teller at the bank and turn these encounters into friendly exchanges. Begin these exchanges by making eye contact, smiling, and saying “hello, good morning or how are you doing today?” Over time, these experiences will give you the confidence to strike up a conversation with someone you’re sharing an elevator with or sitting next to on an airplane, train, or bus. As you’re doing this, keep in mind that both you and the stranger are reaping the benefits of improved moods, feeling more connected and experiencing increased happiness.
